Archive for July 14th, 2010
juegos Failure is an event, not a person.
-Zig Ziglar
Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.
-Confucius
Give Yourself Freedom to Fail
Where does failure live? Does it have an address? When was it born? Who are failures parents? All of the above questions are absurd! Like the inspirational speaker and author Zig Ziglar states: “Failure is only an event.” Nothing else. If it becomes anything more than that, it’s only because you have decided to make it more. You see, friend, there is not a single person alive who has not experienced the painful event of failure.
trabajo When I was in college, I took a business statistics class that was so difficult for me that I would have nightmares about it. I found myself waking up in the middle of the night because I was having a terrible dream about some of the formulas and theories that I had to know for exams and projects. I had never studied so hard for a class only to fail miserably on ever exam, except one. (That’s right, I only passed one exam the entire course, and on the one that I did pass, I think the professor passed me only because he felt sorry for me).
trabajar When my semester grades arrived in the mail, I immediately looked for my statistics grade and there it was—a giant D. That’s right, a D. My attendance and daily assignments landed me the passing grade. If you’d seen my reaction upon discovering this, you would have thought I just made the dean’s list. I was jumping up and down, racing around my house. You may be wondering how anyone could be so ecstatic about a D, one grade above failing. In many people’s eyes, this would be considered failure. But not in my eyes, because God knows I gave that class every ounce of energy and focus that I could muster. When you put all you’ve got into something, what more can you give? Failure is inevitable in one’s quest for success. I may have received a D for that statistics class, but the education that I received about myself was priceless. I’ve learned that failure serves as a strong foundation for success when you allow these trying times to teach you.
Failure simply tells you what doesn’t work?
Have you ever tried to open your car door with very little light and your hands are somewhat full. You try one key after another until you find the correct one. You open the door put in your things and you’re on your way. Most people wouldn’t stop trying only after one or two failures from their keys. They would keep trying because with each “failure” they know that they are getting closer to their desired outcome. In other words failure is simply finding out which key doesn’t work.
Others will Remind You
Anytime you attempt “BIG” things in life you have to be prepared to deal with people. You see, people are often the main reasons that many people quit after receiving feedback from failure. These people hardly ever fail because they rarely attempt anything “BIG” so to avoid failure. The thing that you have to remember is that if you’re failing then your at least doing something; unlike those pitiful souls that attempt nothing at all!
Look for Answers
A fantastic way to deal with failure (feedback) is to seek answers from the situation. You can always find answers if you look hard enough. As a former athlete I always looked the hardest after a loss because you can learn more in a loss than you can in a win but you can’t be afraid of what you’ll find. Be diligent and aggressive in finding answers during failure. You can be published without charge. You can to republish this article in your website or blog. Please provide links Active.
July 14th, 2010
juegos Mainstream, in this writing, means demonstrating via your life, work, relationships, etc., an “acceptable” model or role model, as much as possible-a model that is allowed some leeway as long as it’s a composite of descriptions provided by the various prevalent social, religious, and educational systems and models, as well as family and cultural descriptions or models.
Stated simply, what you do and how you do it appeases the tribe and sub-tribes-which allows you to feel safe-considered worthy of inclusion by the tribe. It means you’re more likely to receive rewards of approval and compensation.
Be clear, please: there’s nothing “wrong” with mainstream. It has its purpose. Mainstream provides a level of order so society’s “mechanisms” work more often than not. It’s a perfect fit for many. And, mainstream and non-mainstream each have their positive/negative aspects.
trabajo Mainstream swimming is only problematic if you’ve always known it wasn’t the right stream for you. You might try to swim in it, but it’s like an obstacle course rather than a fulfilling journey or adventure. Swimming with a “fin” in each stream may be a better fit for you.
Why is this important?
If you’re a more non-mainstream type, you may still be trying to fit in, so you do what the tribe and sub-tribes say you should in order to receive the rewards of approval, compensation, and the feeling you are safe. Feeling safe underlies your motivations. And, even if you have some periods of serenity or happiness and rewards, they’re temporary and/or not as fulfilling as you desire.
If you are contemplating the leap into a stream that fits-or if you’ve made the leap-unless you’ve dealt with your fears and contrasts about being comfortably mainstream vs. fits better in a different stream, you’ll experience contrasts in your life, some of them huge. And, you may not understand why they show up-repeatedly. You may even think it’s because you’re not worthy, not really unique, actually mainstream and just fooling yourself (or lazy, as some mainstreamers may have told you).
trabajar This has huge implications if you’re a person who knows you have to be an entrepreneur so you can follow your passion(s) as this relates to the services or products (solutions) you feel compelled to share with others (but apply this to any area of your life). How might this impact you?
You may withhold rewards from yourself-because you’re running a program that says being different deserves a penalty.
Consider this: if you’re non-mainstream and have experienced less-than-ideal rewards or fulfillment while “playing” in mainstream land . . .
1) It needed to be this way so you could discover you’re better suited to a different stream, one that allows you to be yourself-or you need to create a way to merge the two.
2) You may have been penalized because you didn’t fit the mainstream model. This could include comments from anyone that states disapproval of you because you aren’t making a “real effort” to fit the model someone wants you to fit. (Some of those people who disapproved are actually non-mainstreamers too afraid to leave that stream-sort of a “misery loves company” affect.)
What’s interesting about the second one above is that if you received disapproval for being non-mainstream (maybe even told you were a source of humiliation), it more than likely started when you were a child. AND, if your life isn’t fulfilling now, it’s more than likely you’ve continued to punish yourself, deny yourself rewards, disapprove of or criticize yourself-even into adulthood.
Ahh . . . the great quandary: you are a unique individual and you found yourself in a playground where being too unique and not homogenous enough was not appreciated by the majority of your play mates. By the way, you can find or create your ideal playground.
All this is interesting, but what are you supposed to do-that’s the question, yes?
I offer three approaches to those of you who have decided you’re ready to be Uniquely You, as we’re not all playing the same game.
Life: I’m okay, you’re okay; and I can choose to let go of what others think and be my authentic self, from a place of personal integrity. And, I’m so focused on creating the life I choose, I don’t direct my energy towards criticizing others.
Law of Attraction: I match my vibrations to my ideal expression of self in every area of my life, and attract ideal people, events, and resources into my life.
Quantum: I’m an infinite being (creative consciousness) having a human experience, which means I decided to see what it’s like to feel the opposite-limited-until I decide to wake from this lucid dream and play differently. To do this, I created a playground with play mates who read the lines I gave/give them. I create(d) everything in this lucid dream I chose/choose to make sure I have this experience. I understand the true power is not in the scenery, not in the actors, not in the words, not in any material thing-not in the dream-but comes from me. I install the patterns into the quantum field, and I can appreciate what a brilliant job I did/do of making it feel real. As it feels appropriate, I reclaim energy from patterns I created, as they get my attention, and play differently.
The crux of this is, it’s more than likely your life experience isn’t what you desire if you’re punishing yourself (withholding rewards: approval, appreciation, monetary, success, etc.) for being You.
Next time you aim at a target or goal and start to create the strategies and action steps to achieve or attain an outcome, check in with yourself to see if you’re ready to receive the desired outcome or if a belief that you don’t deserve it is rumbling around at a deep level. Use the approach, out of the three offered above, that resonates most for you to move this forward You can be published without charge. You can to republish this article in your website or blog. Please provide links Active.
July 14th, 2010
Treating ourselves with a spa day in order to rejuvenate is typical for most people who just got out of a hard week. Because of our hectic and busy weekdays we do feel the need to offer something special to ourselves as we all feel we deserve a bit more.
Choosing the right treatment may seem difficult but it is necessary if you want to maximise the benefits. Spa breaks are getting more and more attention from adults, especially in the capitals and the big cities where people feel the need for relaxation more than anywhere else.
For the vast majority, a common question to make is which spa treatment to choose out of the many available ones. With so many available services and treatments varying from body exfoliation to manicure or pedicures, it is strongly advisable to dedicate some time researching. And if you don’t have time to spend on a spa treatment, there are so many beauty products available that again, finding the right one won’t be an easy task.
Start from whether the treatments sound convenient or not. Try to visit a few places so you can assess how they look like but more importantly how you would feel in there as feeling comfortable is they key when it comes to relaxation. if you think you are too busy to visit a few places, then just visit their websites and have a look at the available photos. Price is another key factor because if you spend more than what you can afford won’t make you able to relax and enjoy. Trying to concentrate on those spas that offer a great selection of treatments is very important so you have more chances to find what is ideal for you. Read reviews about other people’s experiences would also be helpful so you avoid places with mediocre or basic services.
The previously mentioned tips and ideas will definitely be a good guide so you choose what is right for you!
July 14th, 2010
Moving day is never pleasant for anyone. After notifying the gas and electric companies, and transferring the phone service, there are still a thousand things left to do. Change of address notices need to go out, movers need to be hired, and boxes have to be packed. Then there is the headache of coordinating it all so that you are out of your old place before the new tenant arrives. Sometimes there is also the frustration of arriving at your new home, only to discover that it isn’t vacant yet. You’re left cooling your heels at the nearest coffee shop, with the hourly costs for the rental mounting, while the person who was supposed to be out hours ago scrambles to finish loading his or her own van.
Moving can be a disaster waiting to happen, and Annabel wanted no part of it. She wanted it done quickly and smoothly, and she wanted it done in the right way, by professionals.
Months before her moving date, Annabel began her preparations. First she contacted every professional mover in town, checked their references, and inquired if they had insurance. She would only entrust her valuable antique tables and armchairs to a moving company whose credentials she was satisfied with. Next, she began packing her boxes. She selected only boxes that were neither too large, nor too small. She divided and categorized everything that she packed, and labeled each and every box. The day before she was scheduled to move, she called ahead in order to be sure that her new place was ready for her to move in to.
Annabel had an older sister named Julie, who also happened to be moving. Julie, however, did not believe in doing things the right way, as Annabel did. Julie had dozens of moves under her belt, and if there was one thing she knew about, it was moving. Julie did not bother with the size of her boxes, or separating what went into them. She tossed everything in together, and as long as the box could still be lifted, it was fine by her. She did, however, have a fairly unique way of preparing her paintings and drawings for transportation. First, she would remove all of the drawers from her dresser. Then she would take all of the pictures down from their easels and off of the walls, and wrap them up in bedding quilts. Once they were safely wrapped, she would jam them into the empty slots in the dresser. It was a wonderful technique that had served her well in the past. Occasionally one or two would be damaged, but what did it matter? She was no Picasso, after all.
There was no need for Julie to call ahead. Whenever she rented a new apartment, she always tried to get one that would be vacated by it current tenant at least a month before she moved in. That way her new landlord would be done with the repairs, and have the place all cleaned up for her when she arrived. As an added bonus, she sometimes was allowed to move in early. It also helped her to be certain that the previous tenant would be gone when she got there. Several of her friends had had the nasty surprise of arriving at their new homes, only to discover that they couldn’t move in. They had been forced to put their boxes, sofas and dining sets in storage, while their new landlords found alternate apartments for them.
Instead of hiring professionals, Julie preferred to hire movers that she found in her local newspaper’s classified section. She didn’t have the type of fancy furniture that her sister did, so she did not care if they came with tarpaulins and moving insurance, or not. As long as they got the job done at an affordable rate, she was happy.
In the end, both Annabel and Julie had moves that went smoothly. They arrived at their new homes and settled in without incidence. Despite the positive experience, Annabel hopes to never have to move again. Julie, on the other hand, is hoping that maybe next year she’ll finally be able to find an apartment with a perfect southern exposure.
July 14th, 2010