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If there is someone you know or work with that you just cannot stand the sight of, how can you change your negative perception on that person? How do you turn back time on someone you never liked in the first meeting?
Firstly, let us address why it is important not to think ill of someone no matter how horrible or annoying they are to you.
For starters, because it is not healthy! Not for that person but for YOU! It is very unhealthy to have negative thoughts in you. Those bad thoughts will cause you undue stress.
Secondly, that person may have really good qualities in them, but because you have planted that seed of dislike, the longer you don’t weed it out, the deeper the roots will grow. So even if that person does something nice, there is no way you will be able to see it because you would have already been blinded by deep rooted dislike.
Take it as a personal growth test to like someone you already dislike. We could all choose to be critical or we could choose to be benevolent.
Here are some steps to liking the unlikeable:
Don’t nitpick
Nitpicking on trivial matters like the way they match their clothes or the way they chew is just not worth your time. You will be amazed to discover how negative nitpicking is to you. Before you even think about something bad, stop yourself. Tell yourself that you are the bigger person here and that trivial things are not going to ruin your day because they are not worth it.
See good
Start by seeing something good in that person. Go slow. It may be tough at first but it will get easier. Even if that person has warts all over their face, think of something nice. Give that person a scan (when they are not looking of course) and see if you can find something you might get to like about that person. Perhaps it is the way their eyes turn to slits when they smile. Or how they never ever spell anything wrong. Once you are more comfortable, move on to something deeper like how efficient they are with their jobs. Or how they are actually great with kids. By seeing good in people, you turn negative vibes into positive energy.
Turn things around
Instead of being critical and judgmental, try the opposite. For instance, Joan is a stuck-up at work. You can choose to see her that way or you could choose to see Joan as being very professional at her job. You can choose to see Steve as a pushover and a weakling with no bones in him, or you could see him as a really nice man that just needs to meet nicer people. Or see Sam as brilliant and passionate rather than obsessed and problematic. There are many ways to turn things around and start seeing the light in people. Again, start on something small.
Empathize
Put yourself in that person’s shoes. To understand where someone comes from and why they act that way, all you need is a little empathy. Someone you know talks too much and you are beginning to hate the sound of her/his voice? Try and see things from their end. Maybe they cannot share their stories at home, maybe they feel the need to be part of the group, maybe they have low self-esteem. If someone is constantly sarcastic, maybe he/she’s got personal growth issues or maybe they are going through a rough time, or unlike you, they have never been taught how to communicate. Yes, you are making assumptions about their life, and yes, these assumptions are probably not true, but it will ease your annoyance and you will find it easier to get along with that person. While some may call it making excuses for the person, the bottomline is that it is better to think well than think ill.
If you are able to turn all feelings of frustration, annoyance and utter dislike for another person into good, healthy, optimistic vibes, it’s a great start to your own personal growth. It will not be an easy task, but remember these tips and you might be able to make a friend out of an enemy.
July 19th, 2010
During pregnancy first think about yourself and after this you can then consider everyone else. You are the priority and you have to think about exactly what you are going to do and get your head around the entire situation before you even consider anything else. Once you have done this then you might want to consider certain things such as telling the people you care about.
Of course, telling your family that you are pregant is something that will certainly cause you to have to think about a fair few different things. One of your main concerns will be their reaction to your pregnancy, and their reaction will be entirely dependent upon the situation and whether the pregnancy is one that is planned or not.
If you consider what sort of reaction you are likely to receive from them then you will be in able to brace yourself properly. While getting good reactions is not something you need to be concerned about, if you think the reactions will be negative, then you need to think about this before you to anyone.
It may also be important for you to think about when you should tell them about your pregnancy as well. Do you want to let people know immediately or would you prefer to wait a little while until all of the dust has settled? If it’s an early period pregnant stage and you own your first trimester then you may want to wait a little while until the chance of having a miscarriage has gone down. Some people also want to wait until they show a little bit before they let people in on it.
Of course, another consideration you may have will be in who you will tell first of all. You should write down a list of all of the people who are important to you and then figure out exactly how you will tell them and in what order. Of course, predominantly people will start with their families and mainly their mothers.
Or maybe you might want to tell everyone together. Depending on your personality you might prefer to have a large party and then announce that you are pregnant during this. Certainly by doing this you will be able to sit back and enjoy everyone’s combined happiness when you give them this wonderful news.
Of course, there are therefore lots of different situations you need to think about when you tell people you are pregnant.
July 19th, 2010
juegos Many people get stressed about the holidays. In a 2006 survey given by the American Psychological Association, lack of money was the highest ranking stressor. Given that in 2009 even more people worry about money and the economy, could that mean that even more people are and will be stressed about this holiday season?
trabajo If you would like to stop worrying about the holidays take a few moments now and consider what this time of year means to you. The holiday season is a special time for most of us. In late November, United States citizens celebrate Thanksgiving. In late December or early January, many religions honor a special day or days. And all of us in the northern hemisphere experience the shortest days and longest nights of the year.
trabajar What do the holidays that you celebrate really mean to you? If they include gift exchange, do you want to participate in this? If you do, does it really matter if you buy gifts for everyone on your list. If you really want to give family members, friends, or co-workers a gift, do you have to spend a lot of money?
Now is a good time to let go of stressful ways of thinking about this season. If you create new intentions now, as you think about the Thanksgiving and the winter solstice holidays, you don’t have to get stressed at all. There’s a great technique I use that helps me identify what I really want. Regarding the holidays, make a list of every thing you don’t want to experience like:
- stress
- family tension
- worries about money
- guilt about not buying the right present
Then use that list to ask yourself what you do want. For example, if I don’t want to experience stress, what do I want? I might answer, “I want to feel relaxed and at ease during the holidays and enjoy the people I’m with.” Once you’ve answered this question for all the things on your don’t want list, you’ve now got a great list from which to create intentions for the season. Mine would be, “I intend to feel relaxed and at ease during the holidays and enjoy the people I’m with.” If you remind yourself of your intentions from now until then, it will invite your brain to create a new more joy filled experience.
Most of us focus on the negative — what we’re worried about — and because of the Law of Attraction, usually we get more of what we don’t want. This process of identifying what we do want and creating intentions from that list gets us out of the habit of thinking about what stresses us and opens the doorway to let in a stress-free way of life You can be published without charge. You can to republish this article in your website or blog. Please provide links Active.
July 19th, 2010
Having an optimistic state of mind is a very essential factor to life’s equation of happiness. Here’s a few constructive thinking tips that will help keep your chin up and your head held high. It’s not easy to stay optimistic , when life throws your curve balls and your plans don’t pan out the way you hope they would..
The first of my positive thinking tips is to practice and make it into a habit of asking the right questions. So what am I trying to say? Well, our mind-set is for the most part controlled by the questions we ask ourselves on a regular basis. Don’t believe me? Just watch your own thoughts for an hour or so. A common mistake the majority of people make is asking themselves the wrong questions. Questions like “Why does this always happen to me?” or “How come life has to be so hard?” These questions are based on the assumption that adverse circumstances alway happens to you and that life is tough. This only drills these beliefs deeper into your mind and solidifies them as your experience the world.
Try asking yourself questions that are less negative and more likely to help aligned you with your desires. Maybe things like “What is the positive outcome to this situation?” or “What am I grateful for today?” Questions like these help strengthen positive beliefs into your head and can help you stay hopeful. It will take some work at first to accept these beliefs (after all, you’ve thought the old beliefs for so long), but the results will be more than worth it..
Another positive thinking tip is to keep a record of all the things you are grateful for in a gratitude diary. This can be something as simple as a notebook that you keep by your bed and you write in it every night. Just jot down a page or a certain number of things that you are grateful for in your life. This can be anything at all. I remember once I wrote down “I am grateful I caught the bus to work just in time today” and then the next day I wrote “I am grateful I missed the bus because it gave me time to read the newspaper in a cafe while I waited for the next bus.” If you do this enough you will start to realize that there is an upside to everything in life and you can start to grasp a positive mental attitude.
The last of my positive thinking tips is to write down what you would like your life to be like. Write it out in pain-staking detail. In my experience with this, I wrote as much as ten pages worth of information on how I want my life to be. I was very descriptive of all the places I wanted to travel and live, how much money I made, and who I wanted to spend it with. This may take some time, but I guarantee you that doing this will make you feel great, help you focus on your goals,and put you in alignment with your dreams.
So have a go with these three positive thinking tips and you should see your perspective towards life do a 180 fairly quickly. Remember, you control your thoughts, your thoughts controls your emotions which will help control your desired outcomes all with positive thinking.
If you enjoyed this article and you want to learn more ways to improve your life through positive thinking, check out Positive Thinking Tips and Staying Positive Tips.
July 19th, 2010